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VI – A Life Of Service

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Ask yourself a question: What good deeds have you performed through the course of this day?

The quality of your life will come down to the quality of your contribution.

There’s an Ancient Chinese Proverb that goes like this: "A little bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses." 

When you work to improve the lives of others, you indirectly elevate your own life in the process.

You must realize that, just as you entered the world with nothing, you are destined to leave with nothing. This being the case, there can be only one real reason for your being here: To give yourself to others and to contribute in a meaningful way.

Compassion and daily acts of kindness make life far richer. Take the time to meditate every morning on the good you will do for others during your day.

Here are some exercises for you to explore:

  • Use sincere words of praise to those who least expect it.
  • Offer gestures of warmth to friends in need.
  • Generate tokens of affection to members of your family.
  • Keep friendships in constant repair.

And here are some thought-provoking techniques to keep your drive:

  • Practice daily acts of kindness.
  • Give to those who ask.
  • Cultivate richer relationships.

Last, but not least, I offer you my deep respect and appreciation for your presence in my life, feedback, comments, likes and shares. You make me better, stronger, inspired, motivated and productive. Thank you.

With love and respect, see you next week!

For more on the subject check Robin Sharma

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V – Time as your most precious commodity

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Remind yourself of your own mortality and the importance of living full, productive days while advancing your purposes. Time slips through our hands like grains of sand, never to return. Time mastery is life mastery!

Learn to use time masterfully. Productive people are highly efficient with their time. Time mastery allows you more time to do the things you love to do and that are truly meaningful to you. Time mastery leads to life mastery. Guard time well. Remember, it’s a non-renewable resource.

To live in balance you must plan your week and manage your time creatively. Failing to plan is planning to fail:

  1. Take a moment before sleep to plan the next day.
  2. Take a Sunday hour to organize your entire week.
  3. Include your Goals (personal, social, spiritual, etc.) into your schedule.

Have the discipline to focus your time around your priorities. The most meaningful things in your life should never be sacrificed to those that are the least meaningful.

Being busy is no excuse. The real question is “what are you so busy about?”

Pareto’s Law states that 80% of the results you achieve in your life come from only 20% of the activities that occupy your time. Start focusing on your “high-impact” activities, those 20% of what you do that actually will have an influence on the quality of your life. Enlightened people are priority driven. This is the secret of time mastery.

Don’t let others steal your time. Be wary of time thieves. Learn to say no. Having the courage to say no to the little things in life will give you the power to say yes to the big things. The more you value your own time, the more respect you get from other people.

Regarding procrastination, remember that the most productive people in this world have cultivated the habit of doing the things that less productive people don’t like doing, even though they too might not like doing them.

Live a simple life. Don’t hurry or frenzy your pace. Look at nature’s easiness and naturalness. Never sacrifice accomplishments for peace of mind. And enjoy taking a nap in the afternoon, it will rejuvenate, refresh and energize your spirit.

Finally, stop acting like you have five hundred years to live… One day you will wish you had started a little sooner. Don’t waste a single grain of sand from your glass watch! “The best time to plant a tree was forty years ago. The second best time is today.” (Divea)

Start focusing on all the meaningful things that you have been putting off, and stop squandering time on all those petty things that have dragged you down into the quagmire of crisis and chaos.

Act as if failure is impossible, and your success will be assured. Wipe out every thought of not achieving your objectives. Be brave, and set no limits on the workings of your imagination. Never be a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.

Listen to your conscience. Let it guide you. It knows what is right. It will tell you that your calling in life is ultimately selfless service to others in some form or another.

Time’s up! For now 😉 See you next week.

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IV – The Power Of Discipline

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The virtue of self-discipline is like a wire cable. It consists of many thin, tiny wires placed one on top of the other. Alone, each one is flimsy and weak. But, together, their sum is much greater than their constituent parts and the cable becomes tougher than iron.

Self-control and willpower are similar to this. To build a will of iron, it is essential to take small, tiny acts in tribute to the virtue of personal discipline. Routinely performed, the little acts pile one on top of another to eventually produce an abundance of inner strength.

Self-discipline will provide you with the mental reserves required to persevere when life throws you one of its little curves. Building self-control and discipline into your life will also bring you a tremendous sense of freedom.

Too many people are slaves to their impulses. They have grown reactive rather than proactive. But real freedom is to see the forest beyond the trees; the freedom to choose what is right over what seems pressing. Stop being a slave to your weaker impulses. Stop doing what everyone else tells you should be doing.

How to build discipline?

1 – Willpower: inspires you to do what is right in any given moment. It gives you the energy to act with courage. It gives you the control to live the life you have imagined rather than accepting the life that you have.

Lack of will power is a dangerous thing. Those who have a vicious temper will tell you, “I can’t help it, my father was the same way.” Those who worry too much will tell you, “It’s not my fault, my job is too stressful.” Those who sleep too much will say, “What can I do? My body needs ten hours of sleep a night.”

Through cultivating willpower, you have the power to be more than your environment. Similarly, you have the capacity to be more than a prisoner of your past. To do this, you must become the master of your will.

2 – Self-control (=mind control): Control every thought that you think. Developed the ability to discard all weak thoughts and focus only on those that are positive and good. Instead of being a slave to your habits, challenge them with more powerful thoughts. Eventually, weaker thoughts will see that they are unwanted and leave like visitors who know they are not welcome. If you don’t take the time to start controlling your thoughts, they will control you.

Here’s a Mantra for discipline:

“I am more than I appear to be, all the world’s strength and power rests inside me.”

And here’s some exercises for discipline:

  1. Start doing the things you don’t like doing. By getting into the habit of exerting your will, you will cease to be a slave to your weaker impulses.
  2. Take a vow of silence. Go an entire day without speaking, except in response to a direct question.
  3. Build Momentum. Start off small. Small victories excite you to take larger steps along the path to your highest self.

Decide to do the things you know you should be doing rather than walking the path of least resistance. Start to fight the gravitational force of your bad habits and weaker impulses just as a rocket rises above the force of gravity to enter the realm of the heavens. Push yourself. Keep setting the mark higher and raising your standards continuously.

For more on the subject check “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari”